What Is Squirting? Understanding Female Ejaculation

Squirting (or female ejaculation) has been a topic of fascination, controversy, and misinformation for centuries. While some consider it a natural sexual response, others debate its origins and even its existence. This comprehensive guide explores:

• The science behind squirting
• How it differs from urination and vaginal lubrication
• Techniques to explore it (if desired)
• Common myths and misconceptions
• Health and psychological considerations

1. What Is Squirting?

Squirting refers to the expulsion of fluid from the urethra during sexual arousal or orgasm. It is not the same as vaginal lubrication (which comes from the vaginal walls) and is distinct from urine, though debates continue in scientific circles.

Key Characteristics of Squirting Fluid

Scientific Consensus?

• Some studies suggest it’s primarily diluted urine (Salama et al., 2015).
• Others argue it’s a unique fluid from the Skene’s glands (Wimpissinger et al., 2013).

2. The Anatomy Behind Squirting

A. The Skene’s Glands (Female Prostate)

• Located near the urethra and G-spot.
• Produce PSA and fructose, similar to male prostate fluid.
• Swell during arousal and may expel fluid upon orgasm.

B. The G-Spot Connection

• The G-spot (Gräfenberg spot) is a sensitive area inside the vaginal wall (2-3 inches in).
• Stimulation can lead to intense arousal and possible squirting.

C. The Urethral Sponge

• Erectile tissue that surrounds the urethra.
• Engorges during arousal, potentially contributing to fluid release.

3. How to Explore Squirting (If You Want To)

Step 1: Mental Preparation

• Let go of embarrassment – Fear of “peeing” is the #1 mental block.
• Hydrate well (but empty your bladder beforehand).
• Use a waterproof blanket to reduce anxiety.

Step 2: Stimulation Techniques

A. G-Spot Stimulation

• Finger Method: Insert 2 fingers, curl upward in a “come here” motion.
• Toy Recommendations:
• Njoy Pure Wand (curved for G-spot pressure)
• Lelo Gigi 2 (vibrating G-spot toy)

B. Combined Clitoral + G-Spot Stimulation

• Many women squirt more easily with dual stimulation.
• Try a clitoral vibrator while using a G-spot toy.

C. The “Build-Up” Method

1. Start with gentle arousal (kissing, foreplay).
2. Gradually increase pressure on the G-spot.
3. When near orgasm, apply firm, rhythmic pressure.

Step 3: Positions That Help

• Doggy Style (deep penetration, G-spot access)
• Squatting (gravity assists fluid release)
• Missionary with Pillow Under Hips (angles for better contact)

4. Myths vs. Facts

❌ Myth: “All women can squirt if they try hard enough.”
✅ Fact: Not everyone can—anatomy varies.

❌ Myth: “Squirting means a stronger orgasm.”
✅ Fact: Some women report more intense pleasure, others feel no difference.

❌ Myth: “It’s just pee.”
✅ Fact: While some urine may mix in, the primary fluid is biochemically distinct.

5. Health & Psychological Considerations

When to See a Doctor

• If squirting is painful
• If fluid has a foul smell or unusual color
• If experiencing uncontrolled leakage outside arousal

Post-Squirting Care

• Urinate after sex (prevents UTIs).
• Stay hydrated (replenishes fluids).

6. Cultural & Historical Perspectives

• Ancient References:
• Tantric texts (6th century) describe “sahasrara jal” (divine fluid).
• Japanese shunga art depicts female ejaculation.
• Modern Media Influence:
• Porn exaggerates frequency (41% of scenes vs. ~18% in real life).

Final Thoughts

Squirting is a natural but not universal phenomenon. Whether it happens or not doesn’t define sexual satisfaction. The most important factors are comfort, communication, and pleasure.

Have you experienced squirting? Share your thoughts in the comments!

Sources

1. Salama et al. (2015), The Journal of Sexual Medicine
2. Wimpissinger et al. (2013), Journal of Sexual Medicine
3. Ostrzenski (2020), International Urogynecology Journal
4. Herbenick (2023), Archives of Sexual Behavior